No interest, no response? - The stupid (?) culture of avoiding rejection

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If you are on any dating network or platform you have seen this before, and maybe you had been annoyed by this statement like I was before it took me weeks of reflection to come to the right sane conclusion to deal and put it into context.

"No interest, no response."

It is the next annoying phrase after "no picture, no chat" (well, duh, even if you have pictures most of those actually resort just to this default mode "no interest, no response.")

Practical?

Absolutely practical when you are in London or Barcelona or other high density areas and have limited time and want to meet now or organize a cumdump event where you want to focus on THOSE YOU WANT and have no time to politely decline requests.

Impolite?

That is what many think when they hear this the first time. So really, you do not have time to be polite and say no instead? Heck there are even canned messages and macros that just with one click say "Not a match, but you are still sexy. Good luck!"

But then: the most helpful explanation why "No interest, no response." is the most polite way to act. DO YOU ANSWER SPAM EMAILS? No. So why should you answer requests from people you have no desired to interact. If you encounter a beggar on a street, the best response is also just to ignore them, or they start to drag you into a conversation.

Insecure?

Some people are by the way just insecure and do not want to know how to respond and actually do not want to hurt anyone, so they choose to stay silent, which is actually the most honest reaction after all.

Avoiding Conflicts and Rejection Dystopians

There is actually this point, if you start to write a short polite answer that guys can not take a no and start to drag you in a chat. Tip: just block them! Most people that do not answer just like to avoid conflicts.

There is one thing that I deal as ADHD person myself and it is called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). It is a state of extreme emotional pain triggered by real or perceived rejection, criticism, or failure.

And it is mostly just made up in people's mind. Online it will get you hate messages or really irritating insults. I head almost anything online by now from "Why are you at your age in a dating app and have not ordered a coffin?" to the classics "You are ugly." or "You are too old."

You do not have to be someone's therapist, so no answering is the best choice, and block him right away.

Human?

Nothing is more frustrating in sending 30 messages and just hear crickets and no responses. Keep in mind that many profiles you are trying to reach out are fake, automated or AI generated profiles to fill an app with enough people around you to "keep you busy". But is it nice to talk to the wall? Certainly not.

But take it as a sign after extended periods of no responses to take frequent breaks.

And consider - sigh - to use paid features to boost your profile to get attention, those apps are there to make money and mostly (if you are in the RIGHT location, of course!) you will get responses from real human beings if you use paid features in end, it is the harsh truth.

Block them. Block them.

The most time saving strategy is to block people. I do not get it why I should keep people on my grid that I have not desire to meet. The absolut stupid talk that you have to be tolerant and accept people for what they are does not apply to high-speed sex dating.

It might be different if you are looking for love and a relationship, but to be honest, that is another blog post - and... usually it is SEX FIRST, relationship later. Or SEX FIRST, being friends later.