You are too old.

Discover the correct way to date your desired age group.

Just funny. I hear this too often.

Anyone who writes this has no real life experience. They're usually insecure, hiding their own anxiety about aging.

First things first: The correct sentence is "You are too old FOR ME."

That's how you state an age preference. Better yet? Put it right in your profile text upfront. Then simply ignore and block anyone who messages you anyway.

Here's the truth: Nobody is "too old" for anything. The only thing you can be is too young — and I'm obviously talking about legal requirements here. Everything I discuss happens within legal borders.

Your Age Preference Is Your Choice

That's not the issue.

The problem is failing to communicate what you want, then getting upset when people outside your preferred age range contact you.

You might think it's "normal" for people to only date their own age. If so, look at the age gaps in celebrity relationships. And read my thoughts below on what the word "normal" actually means.

Why Limit Yourself By Age?

Here's the thing: the more open-minded you are, the more you evaluate a person — or an online profile — based on how they present themselves, not their age.

Inexperienced people tend to limit their choices to their own age group. But if you're inexperienced, you learn from experienced men. And those are usually older than you.

I personally meet guys my age, but I often love connecting with younger men. They have this strong sense of adventure, this drive to explore new things. Meanwhile, I constantly encounter men of all ages with closed, boring mindsets. No matter how good they look, I won't have sex with them.

Hint: A beautiful body is never a guarantee for good sex.

You decide. Just communicate it clearly.

I needed to get this off my chest because it applies to everything: "You're too fat/thin/white/black/asian/[insert preference]."

Let people live their own desires.

The biggest mistake in sex dating communication? Assuming that what you want is what is "normal." Acting as if everyone else is just like you.

In fact, if someone uses the word "normal," I mostly instant-block them.

Why?