Normal. Please no!

Here is a short tip that will save you a lot of time.

Avoid people like the plaque that use the word "normal", because they are very likely the most judging you can deal with combined with a narrow mind set that you do want to encounter when looking for real hot sex dates in the real world.

Here is a short tip that will save you a lot of time.

 I see that phrase one more time on Grindr, Scruff, TheBlowers or whatever app you're currently glued to at 2 AM while your roommate thinks you're "just scrolling Instagram," I'm going to throw my phone into the ocean.

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Here's a short tip that will save you a lot of time, emotional energy, and disappointing hookups: Avoid people who use the word "normal" like they're avoiding a subpoena.

Guys who lead with "normal only" or "are you normal?" aren't describing a personality type—they're waving a fluorescent red flag that screams "I'm judgmental, repressed, and carrying enough baggage for a three-week Mediterranean cruise."

Think about it. "Normal" in a gay sex context is code for: masc4masc, no fats, no fems, no whatever-they-deem-weird-tonight. It's narrow-minded gatekeeping disguised as preference. And narrow minds make for predictably boring, mechanical sex where everyone performs a Straight Dude Cosplay and nobody actually enjoys themselves.

Real hot sex—the kind that leaves you grinning stupidly for days, texting your best friend "you're not going to believe this"—requires openness. It requires encountering someone without a checklist. It requires leaving "normal" at the door with your jeans.

So next time someone asks if you're "normal," don't get offended. Get the hell out of there. Your dick will thank you later.

Stay thirsty, stay weird.